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How can you tell when you are emotionally attached to someone for sure?
Can you be emotionally attached to someone,and not realize it? I have been doing a lot of thinking on this subject,and I got to wonder if I could be emotionally attached to the Pastor,and not realize it. From all of the stuff I have said in my posts in other threads could I be emotionally attached to the Pastor? |
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Hello Donna
A person knows they are emotionally attached to someone when they feel concern, caring, liking etc. for the other person and when they would feel a sense of loss if they were to loose the relationship with the person. Emotional attachment is not a bad thing in and of itself. People get emotionally attached to family, pets, friends, a certain pillow, etc. The problems happen when the emotional attachment is so strong that it interferes with a person's ability to function or have other normal relationships or makes them want to hurt themself. It is normal to feel sad when someone you like is moving away. It is normal to like your pastor in a way similar to the way you might like, respect, and look up to a trusted teacher.
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1Peter 2:24 Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. ... Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. Matthew 25:40 & 45 www.caringhandsministries.com |
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Yeah, I agree with Ann. Don't be deceived by your thoughts so that you cut yourself off from someone you have only clean thoughts of, but if you begin to have sexual urges or dependence in the sense that only what they say is correct, then it might be more than normal, so I'd be careful with this.
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There is like only one I like as a boyfriend,and I haven't seen him in a long time,even then I have such difficulty talking with him it's not funny,Jamie. I have no idea what a sexual urge is but I doubt I have ever had any towards anyone. I know that but for me being upset when someone leaves the church is so not normal,although I was upset when my bestfriend had to move to Wisconsin. The only other time that I was upset was do to being emotionally attached to him,like I couldn't stand the fact he wouldn't be around had a lot to do with it,and I forget how I got over it. For me getting upset when someone leaves the church isn't something I normally do,but then a lot of the time I hardly know the person,and never got the chance to be friends. The reason it upsets me is I'll go back to having no one to go to with my problems offline,and that's why it upsets me like it does as much as it upsets me. Because I can't go with out anyone offline again because it's the only way I can ever get the help I need. I know I mentioned why I was upset in another thread. For me things just can't go back to how they used to be with no one to go to,and my parents getting called if I mention I'm suicidal like it used to be,that's not the only thing that upsets me about it. Also because I won't have anyone I can go to about self-harm offline,and I only just started to talk with him about it too because I had to wait until I had the courage to do so,right now I wish I hadn't done that,and I can't go to the other person offline who knows about it because she won't understand it,and I'm so tired of hearing the words I'm complaining from her words I don't need to hear when I'm not complaining. I don't know if I can tell anyone else the self harm stuff,God only showed me him no one else,and with this I can't afford to make any mistakes when it comes to talking with someone offline about it. For me it's like losing the only person I mainly go to offline with my problems,not only that yet again I have to lose someone that truly understands me. I don't have anyone else who does,even the one friend I had online who truly understood me is offline,and I have no way to contact him,for all I know he could have had an asthma attack,and died,and he lives in Georgia of course this would be the 2nd time he was unknown,and I keep looking,and hoping he'll be back online,you know the city that is in both Alabama,and Georgia that's the one he lives in,and I currently have no one else in my life online or offline who understands me that is truly understands me. I got to copy,and paste this here because I don't understand the statement entirely. Quote:
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Is it normal for someone with Aspergers Syndrome to depend on people a lot? Is it also normal for someone with AS to depend on people to much? I do know that it is very normal for me to do that. That's why some of my friends have told me it's best we don't talk any more,that one person who is a Christian who was one of my online pen pals because he knew if he didn't I'd depend on him,and he wanted me to depend on God more so he told me not to contact him any more. Everytime a friend becomes unknown online it tends to make me upset,samething can be said when I lost friends who weren't my true friends because it made me more lonely,and with out my online friends I'd be as lonely as I used to be before I came online,and got online friends,so I get upset when that happens. Some of what I feel because of this I'm not sure of right now but I think I'm getting what else I am feeling mixed up in this. |
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Hello again Donna
Let's see if I can answer your questions more clearly this time. ![]() You asked Quote:
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Sometimes people get overwhelmed by other people's needs and problems. Sometimes when a person finds someone they feel like they can talk to it is hard not to dump everything on them. Setting limits for ourselves is not easy to learn is it?
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It is starting to sound like I am emotionally attached to Brother Charles,not only that but it is worse than when I was emotionally attached to Brother Scott Hildreth. I don't think Brother Charles would be amazed by it either. Although I'm not sure how obvious it is. It is a no wonder I'm so upset by him leaving. I do know that in the future being upset when someone leaves the church when I wouldn't normally shows I could be emotionally attached to the person. |
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Hello Donna
You have a lot of good insight on yourself and others. It does hurt when we want something a lot and it doesn't seem as important to the other person. Being attatched to someone is not all a bad thing. That is how people make friends. Problems happen when one person has more of an emotional attatchment than the other person does or one person uses the emotional attachment to try to control the other. The degree of attatchment that is appropriate also depends on the kind of relationship the people have. A person is generally more attatched emotionally to family or close friends than to someone who they hardly know for example. Most people feel more attachment to a friend than they would to someone who cleans their teeth that they don't have any other contact with or someone else they just know in a professional way. I am sorry things are so hard for you right now. Have you tried talking to Jesus about the self harm? You can talk to Him like in a prayer or write it out like in a letter. He really cares and He is always there.
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1Peter 2:24 Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. ... Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. Matthew 25:40 & 45 www.caringhandsministries.com |
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Hello Donna
Thanks for letting me know what I didn't say clearly enough. Please let me try again. Quote:
About praying. You said you asked Jesus to live in your heart and be your Savior, is that correct? When you did that you also became God's child because Jesus lives in you. That is what people call being born again. Just like when a baby is born she becomes part of the family, now you are part of God's family. Jesus loves you. He died for your sins. I know you know that. But that is not all. He wants to help and bless you now today not just someday in heaven. He is never too busy to care. He never goes away. He never says don't bother me. Prayer is just talking or writing to Jesus. It is strange talking to someone you can't see. But we do that on line every day, don't we. We trust that someone will read what we post and care and reply. When you talk or write to Jesus or to God you are talking to someone who loves you more than anyone else ever can or will. You are talking to someone who can do more to make things better than anyone else can or will. That is what prayer is.
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1Peter 2:24 Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. ... Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. Matthew 25:40 & 45 www.caringhandsministries.com |
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Besides that I have big problems with words when it comes to praying,that is why I had more than one person work with me offline on praying Brother Scott Hildreth,and Brother Brian,no one else has since though. |
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Lately almost every time I check the who's on line someone or some search tool is reading this thread. I don't know if it is the same person or what but since it is an old thread it might be someone is looking for it not just seeing it by coincidence because it would be a little hard to find without looking on purpose. I just want to tell anyone this interests that they are welcome at iljboards and that they can get to post here by emailing iljboards@yahoo.com and letting us know they want to be part of ilj.
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1Peter 2:24 Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. ... Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. Matthew 25:40 & 45 www.caringhandsministries.com |
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