Um....

[Shychiquita13]

Hi,

Well, I just have a small question for everyone. I'm not quite sure how to put this but here it goes:

Well, my brother and my mom don't have the best relationship. In fact, my family isn't very close at all. I mean, my brothers and I may as well be strangers because we hardly know each other at all. My brothers aren't saved....and I have been praying for them... My parents aren't saved either.

Anyways, monday night I was asleep and then I woke up to my mom screaming... :argue:
I didn't think much of it.. She yells a lot. But, then it started to scare me a little because she was screaming a lot louder then normal and she started bringing me into the conversation even though my mom didn't even know i was awake. But, she started swearing and calling him stuff that I'll never repeat. It worried me a lot; not for myself, but for my brother. I know how much it hurt me(and still does but not as much because i've figured it out) when I got yelled at when I was unsaved, how unloved and angry it made me feel.
But, it hurt me a lot to hear my mom yelling like she did at my brother. I know he doesn't mean to mess up; but my mom isn't all to blame either.

I guess what I'm really asking is how to deal with this kind of thing the next time it happeneds, advice on how to bring my family to Jesus, and i suppose how to get some old scars healed.....

[Ann]

Hello Shychiquita
That is a really hard situation for you to have to be in. The best think I know to do is to pray. Pray for your brother to come to know Christ as his Savior. Pray about the way he acts too. Pray for your mother to come to know Christ as her Savior. Pray for the Lord to help her with the things that make her so tense and angry. And pray for yourself too. You need the God's peace and protection and you need His love to fill up the places that hurt so much because of what is said and done.

The other thing that will help is to read your Bible and be especially alert to what God says about You. Ephesians is a good place to start so is John 3:16 that assures you how very much God loves you. What we think of ourselves is based a lot on what people who are important to us think of us. It is important that you learn God's opinion about you not just your mom's anger. It can help to keep a notebook with the verses that tell you what God says about you and reread the ones that are special to you every day.

When you accepted Jesus, as your Savior you became a new creation in Christ. You do not have to walk in the family heritage of anger, hurt, put downs and curses. You are now entitled to God's blessings. Read Deuteronomy 28 to learn what a lot these blessings are. And as you read any part of the Bible keep a blessing list. Some blessings have conditions attached. God says if you do this then I will give you this blessing. Notice what the conditions are and do the things that will bring you blessings and not trouble. If you are allowed to go to church that will help you too if you go to one where God's word is taught in love and in power and people care about you. If you don't have a church you go to regularly you can ask friends who love Jesus what their church is like and maybe go to church with them and see if it is the place God is leading you to go.

And if it ever comes to where it sounds like someone is getting hurt badly or about to get hurt you may need to get to a phone in the house or at a neighbor's and call the police or someone for help. I hope it never ever gets that bad but if it ever does it is OK to call for help so no one os hurt worse.

Please post again and let us know how you are doing and what you are finding out that God says about you.