dating vs. courting

[theGoThIcFrOg]

well i am kinda new, and i am kinda confused by some of this dating vs courtship, what is the right way, and what are they fully?

[theGoThIcFrOg]

well there are many different things that i have heard, i would just like to know all your opinions, and what you think is the "right" way to go about it. Thanks.

[grandpa]

:angel: Hi Lady: Is it Cora Jane? I have thought about your question and comments for a few days. I decided that a check into a Dictionary and a Thesaurus would be a good starting point. It is amazing at the dearth of data on these two words that are used so much in our culture. We think we know so much about these two loveable words. Fundamentally it is getting to know the other Gender. This is great. "Courting" is a rather archaic word that may get a few smiles when used in public. (I think).

When geting to know the other gender, I would recomend that no one date a person that you would not want to marry or spend much time with. Young ladies should feel safe with the gentlemen friends that they are "Steping out with". Also-All should feel comfortable with the other person. All should be able to trust the other person. "TRUST" is the most important facet of any relationship. If you cannot trust the other person--All else is 'no good'.

Now: How well do you communicate with the other family?? It is important, You know. All should be introduced to the other parents and a few relatives. This itself could be a Bona Fide Shocker for some young people who have "Not been around Much". No doubt there could be volumes written on this subject, "My Friends Family".
How do you think this subject would fly in the "Teen Board"?

In closing, If the friend that you are interested in does not go to Church, Invite this person. If He/She is not interested at all in Church, Think long and extensive about continueing the relationship. Much more could be written on this endearing subject. Keep us posted on your pursuit of the perfect man. The "Right Way" is to just look around, Go to Church, Be a nice and helpful person, Do a bit of volunteer work, Visit the old, Shut-ins, and the ill. You never know who just may materialize. Agape. Grandpa.:) :D :biggrin: :cool:

P.S. Pray about your future. It Works. Grandpa.

[Ann]

Hello and welcome
To some people dating = just going out having fun serious or not physical or not while courting = developing a serious relationship with the intent of marriage. Tnat may or may not be the difference you are looking for.

Grandpa has given some good advice and ideas. I'd like to add a couple of things. Do not let your self be pressured into a relationship or a degree of seriousness just because "everyone is doing it". First everyone isn't and second the old old question if everyone was jumping off the tallest building does that make it something you want to do too. I've seen several posts on Teen Scene about a book called I Kissed Dating Goodby. The people posting seemed to feel it helped them understand more about dating. You might want to read it too.

[Anne]

I read a book called 'The Restoraton of Men:God's Rescue of Women and Children, by Karl Duff. This is an excellent resource for people who want to start off their marriages and 'courting relationships' the right way.

I reccommend it to every single person out there and even for people who are having marital problems. The Lord has really given Karl Duff a revelation concerning courting and relationships. This book has really helped me to understand the dynamics of courting and why it is SOOO important. It has also helped me to understand why my marriage is the way it is (my husband didn't court me). And how important a fathers role is to be involved when their daughter is being courted. I had never heard of this book before until it was recommended to a friend by their pastor. My husband even read it! I have already decided that my son's will court instead of date (they are 9 and 3yrs old.) I know that is young to decide, but, the book really impacted how I saw things!

God Bless!
Anne