Lots Of Questions

[DonnaSugarPlum]

How can you when you do ignore those being mean to you how do you keep it from getting you real upset?
How do I keep all the bad things that happen when they happen from making me feel so bad emotionally are making me depressed are making me even more depressed?
What can I do to get to feeling better emotionally?
What can I do so I can be happy again?
I have been pretty depressed since October.
How can I not let my loneliness bother me so much to the point that when I'm real lonely that would be most of the time from making me so depressed,& feel so bad emotionally?
How am I supposed to get people to see that I care about others besides myself regardless of the fact that I spend most of my time when depressed talking about how I feel emotionally so I don't bottle it up,& get them to understand that?
As a Christian how can I talk to God about my problems,& ask him to help me through this?
As a Christian how can I do what I know I should be doing as a Christian as in praying daily,& reading the Bible?
I have such a hard time with all of that including depending on God instead of depending on people to much as well as trusting him,&I'm still trying to figure out what to do to put God in control of my life.
How am I supposed to quit self-inflicting pain on myself by hitting myself when I'm not even aware of it when I do it?
What do I do if my parents never ever take me to counseling because they think I'm just doing it for attention that I'm not really depressed? I ask that because that's exactly what's happening.
I have even asked all my close online friends these questions,& they can't answer them,& all my online friend Catalina could say is to find someone online that knows the answers to these questions but no one that I've talked to that I talk to about my problems have the answers to these questions,& no offline does either. Not that Brother Wade wouldn't but he left the church to be a Pastor at another church,& I just know that the sermon he preached Sunday has to do with these questions in my post some how but I didn't understand the sermon real well,I just know it has a lot to do with what it is that I need to do,don't know if there is anyone that could explain the sermon to me are not that was there Sunday morning.
How do you get a hacker off of your friends AOL account?
It seems that my friend Doug has been hacked again,& the hacker seems bent on destroying the friendship Doug,& I have,& is always calling me stupid,& a retard,always telling me Doug's not coming back,but there is something about this that isn't making a bit of sense,that is the fact that when something like this happens Doug usually calls me about it,& I haven't gotten 1 phone call from him yet,& my friend Catalina said that he has this feeling that it's really Doug not no hacker doing this but there is no way that can be because this isn't the Doug I've been friends with for over 2 years,but the hacker knows more about Doug than he/she should,& knows a lot more about me than he/she should. Regardless I do know that before he was supposedly hacked there were times that he was acting strangely like going along with Rena,& her friends in the chatroom that always make fun of me,not just that but saying things like going to send all this to my house just like the hacker that pretended to be Doug always did. How am I supposed to know what's going on here?
This hacker has even told me that I need to be more open minded like be open to stuff that isn't in the Bible. I'm starting to see that there never was no evil bot named jork because the hacker supposedly on Doug's AOL account acts just like jork,& Thursday a week from yesterday I got this IM from Doug that said pjork hates you. My friend Doug is involved with doing psychic stuff,& involved with tarot cards,& he's said that he is a Christian,but in the past he kept telling me that he don't believe everything it says in the Bible. I have no idea what to do. The hacker has even said stuff like we killed him as in killed Doug. This hacker even threatened to hack me,& I know it's the same hackers as before,& I'm the main target.

[Ann]

Hello again Donna, welcome back. These are really good questions.

Donna, Jesus loves you. I know you know that and I know you love him too. I believe you know too that He always wants what is the very best for you. There is a scripture in Romans, chapter 8 verse 28 that tells us “all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Jesus has a purpose for your life. You want His best for you and so does He. That means that if your parents never take you for counseling Jesus will be sure you get the help you need another way. God’s word promises in Philippians 4:19 “my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus“ and in Ephesians 3:16 “That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man”. Jesus says in John 10:10 “ I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” He will help you. The help may come directly from God to you. It may come through the Bible. It may come through camp. It may come by God helping your parents change their minds and want to help you get counseling. It may come in a way you and I can’t even imagine. But however He does it God will help you because He loves you.

Sometimes we get in our minds the way we want Him to help us and it does not always work out that way. He may do it a very different way but He will always give us the help we need. Sometimes we trust God as a last resort after all the other solutions we can think of have failed. I’ve done that and maybe you have too. Sometimes it seems that God does things differently that the way we thought we wanted just to show us that we need to have our mind set on Him and not on the way we thought He should do things. I’ve been learning this a lot this winter. Sometimes I have not liked the lessons at all but we can always know that God is good and that He loves us.

When we get upset or very sad and depressed a lot of the time it is because we have our minds on what we want and don’t have or on the circumstances we are in and not on God. At times like that we have to do all we can to make a deliberate choice too stop thinking about the bad things and start thinking about God’s love for us. That is a lot easier to say than it is to do, isn’t it? But we can train ourselves to do it. The way we train ourselves to pay more attention to God than to the things that make us depressed or upset is to start each day by praising Him even when we absolutely do not feel like it. It helps to read a praise psalm out loud - and sometimes very loud. My husband keeps praise and worship music playing all night because he has a lot of physical pain and wakes up hurting often in the night. Whenever he wakes up the first thing he hears is praise and that helps him think about God and not about how bad he feels and how much he wishes he didn’t feel so bad. This may help you too. I had a hard time getting used to it at first because I was used to having it quiet at night but now if it is not on I miss it and I can really tell a difference in how I feel inside. I like to make signs and posters to put on the wall and the mirror and just about everywhere else with scriptures that remind me of God’s love and of His promises. My favorite ones have a picture that makes me smile and a scripture. Some of the pictures are mountain scenes, some are waterfalls, some are kittens, etc. You can find a lot of nice pictures to put with scriptures on line. One good place is http://cards/heartlight.org/index.cgi

We need to program our minds just like they program a computer. We put in the things that will help us and take out the things that mess us up. For example if I start feeling upset about something somebody did the first thing for me to do is to bless that person putting God’s goodness where there was badness. Then remember what God’s word says about the situation and put that in my mind instead of the bad thing that person did. If I feel lonely and like no one cares about me I need to bless the person or people who ignored me or weren’t nice to me and then go to the Bible or to the Bible verses that are stored in my mind and remember that God said “ I will never leave you or forsake you” Hebrews 13:5 And “I am with you always even to the end of the world” Matthew 28:20. If I feel depressed I know the Bible says Jesus took our depression on himself so I can have His peace “Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted” Isaiah 53:4 I just found another good verse for this when I was looking up the verse in Matthew “Now the Lord of peace himself give you peace always by all means. The Lord be with you all” That is 2 Thessalonians 3:16.

Find programs on TV and radio, websites, tapes, CDs and other things that tell you about how God loves you. Watch and listen to those and avoid ones that put you down or talk about feeling bad all the time or hurt other people. This will help you feel a lot better. It probably won’t all happen over night. You have spent years getting into the habits of thinking and feeling that you have now. You have spent years being told you have problems and can’t do a lot of what you want to do. You will need to work at it for several weeks or even months to get your mind programmed with God’s word. But it will be worth it because you are setting the pattern for all the rest of your life.

The other part of programming our minds is what we take out or choose not to put into them. Have you ever noticed how some TV shows leave you feeling bad even if they are supposed to be funny and some cartoons and things may make you laugh for a little while but then you get feeling down and talking to some people on net makes you feel good afterwards while others just upset you? The people and shows and other things that leave you feeling bad are ones to take out and leave out of your mind and life. The ones that make you feel close to God and good about yourself are the ones to put in.

The way to feel less lonely and to show that you care about other people is to plan each week to do something nice for someone else. You said you like to make things so maybe you could make bracelets and send them to a shelter or a place that people stay when they have been hurt by someone in their family. Or you might want to make cards on net and send them to people you know are lonely or if you have money for stamps send a cards to a nursing home to be given to people who never get any mail. You could also send cards to a children’s hospital. Some people have a special ministry of sending a card by email to people who have asked for prayer at a net site they go to. You can find cards that you can send for free on line at the heartlight site and at www.bluemountain.com and a lot of other places on the net. Another thing you might want to do is to make pictures or favors with a scripture verse on them for people at a personal care home. If you knit or sew or crochet you could make something for babies whose moms have very little money. At home you can think of a chore around the house that your mom does not like to do and you know how to do and start doing it - don’t say anything just do it as a way to bless her. Another thing you can do at home is to think of one thing that makes tension between you and your parents and try to go 3 days without doing that thing. I know things have been strained between you and your brother but can you think of 3-5 things that are good about him or that you appreciate about him and write him a letter telling him about those good things and not saying anything about things that don’t seem as good? Can you volunteer to do some things outside the house like maybe going one afternoon a month to help put things on the shelves at a food ministry or sort clothes at a place that gives clothes to people who need them? The more things you can do that make someone else feel good the better you will feel about yourself. This is in the Bible too. Luke 6:38 and Galatians 6:7.

I don't know all the reasons you may hurt yourself but for most people most of the time if they do something like that it is because they are tense and feeling bad about themselves. The more you program yourself to be aware of God's love for you and the better you start to feel about yourself the less likely you are to hurt yourself. Some people have a type of seizure in which they do things they don't know they are doing. If you think something like that is happening to you tell the doctor the next time you go and see if there is any adjustment that can be made in medicine to help you.

About the hackers, if this hacker is on Doug’s account then it is Doug’s problem to get rid of them. He can complain to AOL. The best thing for you to do in the meantime is to tell Doug that until he gets that problem solved you are not going to take any more messages from him and if he treats you badly or if someone who says they are him treats you badly or makes fun of you in a chat room just go to another room where the people are nicer. Don’t stay and talk to them about it. Don’t get into a fuss with them. Just go somewhere else where the people act better. Most people who act that way are trying to make themselves feel big and important and to get a reaction from you. If you ignore and avoid them they won’t get any satisfaction from it and will stop doing it. You know that the psychic things Doug is into are things that do harm to a person spiritually and things that God does not like at all. They bring a bad spirit with them. The Bible tell us that people who do such things can’t really be friends to someone who loves God and wants to walk in His light. 2 Corinthians 14-18. Al lot of times just being around things like that or people who do them can make a person really depressed and upset and make a lot of trouble between them and other people.

[DonnaSugarPlum]

Originally posted by Ann
[B]Hello again Donna, welcome back. These are really good questions.

Donna, Jesus loves you. I know you know that and I know you love him too. I believe you know too that He always wants what is the very best for you. There is a scripture in Romans, chapter 8 verse 28 that tells us “all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Jesus has a purpose for your life. You want His best for you and so does He. That means that if your parents never take you for counseling Jesus will be sure you get the help you need another way. God’s word promises in Philippians 4:19 “my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus“ and in Ephesians 3:16 “That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man”. Jesus says in John 10:10 “ I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” He will help you. The help may come directly from God to you. It may come through the Bible. It may come through camp. It may come by God helping your parents change their minds and want to help you get counseling. It may come in a way you and I can’t even imagine. But however He does it God will help you because He loves you.
Okay.
Originally posted by Ann
[B]
Sometimes we get in our minds the way we want Him to help us and it does not always work out that way. He may do it a very different way but He will always give us the help we need. Sometimes we trust God as a last resort after all the other solutions we can think of have failed. I’ve done that and maybe you have too. Sometimes it seems that God does things differently that the way we thought we wanted just to show us that we need to have our mind set on Him and not on the way we thought He should do things. I’ve been learning this a lot this winter. Sometimes I have not liked the lessons at all but we can always know that God is good and that He loves us.
I don't think I have been doing that.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]When we get upset or very sad and depressed a lot of the time it is because we have our minds on what we want and don’t have or on the circumstances we are in and not on God. At times like that we have to do all we can to make a deliberate choice too stop thinking about the bad things and start thinking about God’s love for us. That is a lot easier to say than it is to do, isn’t it? But we can train ourselves to do it. The way we train ourselves to pay more attention to God than to the things that make us depressed or upset is to start each day by praising Him even when we absolutely do not feel like it. It helps to read a praise psalm out loud - and sometimes very loud.
I'm not able to do that it would get me in trouble even,& I'm not allowed to even take my Bible with me when my parents go on any vacations,one I reason I refuse to ever go with them,that,& the fact that the camper is to small,& crowded for 3 people,& I get no privacy to do anything.
Originally posted by Ann
[B]My husband keeps praise and worship music playing all night because he has a lot of physical pain and wakes up hurting often in the night. Whenever he wakes up the first thing he hears is praise and that helps him think about God and not about how bad he feels and how much he wishes he didn’t feel so bad. This may help you too. I had a hard time getting used to it at first because I was used to having it quiet at night but now if it is not on I miss it and I can really tell a difference in how I feel inside. I like to make signs and posters to put on the wall and the mirror and just about everywhere else with scriptures that remind me of God’s love and of His promises. My favorite ones have a picture that makes me smile and a scripture. Some of the pictures are mountain scenes, some are waterfalls, some are kittens, etc. You can find a lot of nice pictures to put with scriptures on line. One good place is http://cards/heartlight.org/index.cgi
I can sleep through anything but I don't have any I can do that with,& at times my cd's can be heard elsewhere in the house,& it would get me in trouble as my parents can't sleep through sounds like that like I can. They aren't happy whenever my alarm wakes them up,& they can't go back to sleep because it goes off for 2 hours sometimes because sometimes I sleep right through it sometimes an hour through it,& sometimes only 15 minutes through,it goes off at 5 every morning.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]We need to program our minds just like they program a computer. We put in the things that will help us and take out the things that mess us up. For example if I start feeling upset about something somebody did the first thing for me to do is to bless that person putting God’s goodness where there was badness. Then remember what God’s word says about the situation and put that in my mind instead of the bad thing that person did. If I feel lonely and like no one cares about me I need to bless the person or people who ignored me or weren’t nice to me and then go to the Bible or to the Bible verses that are stored in my mind and remember that God said “ I will never leave you or forsake you” Hebrews 13:5 And “I am with you always even to the end of the world” Matthew 28:20. If I feel depressed I know the Bible says Jesus took our depression on himself so I can have His peace “Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted” Isaiah 53:4 I just found another good verse for this when I was looking up the verse in Matthew “Now the Lord of peace himself give you peace always by all means. The Lord be with you all” That is 2 Thessalonians 3:16.
I don't quite get that,&most verses I know I learned out of a real confusing,& version of the Bible I don't even understand when I was a kid KJV,& I can't say I even remember them now though except I get the NIV version,&KJV version of John 3:16 completely mixed up,& I'm more like saying it in like both versions. I don't even understand the NIV that well but it's a grade higher than my reading comprehension is. That's why I like never read the Bible as a teenager,not at all til my Uncle Hollis introduced me to the NIV when I was 19 before then I was like I can't read something I don't understand but I still had that problem even when I started using the NIRV Kids Devotional,&NIRV Kids Study Bible but I read it every so often,& I read most of the devotions in it but it quit meeting my needs so I like quit reading it that often,even now I still have a hard time with it even though I've been using the NCV Youth Bible For over 7 years but wasn't able to for a while do to it falling apart,& I couldn't see 1 page of verses in 1 Corinthians in it,but even using the NIV Teen Devotional Bible,a leather imitation NIRV,& the ones I felt the need to get recently Kids Life Application Bible student one looked awfully confusing,& the NCV Extreme Teen Bible that happens to meet my needs more than the NIV Devotional Bible does I still not reading it daily but with the Bibles I have now am reading the Bible more often. Only verse memorized besides John 3:16 in a version I understand is Psalm119:11 I think it is,only verse I remember from when I went through the Youth Survival Kit that was a help in my spiritual growth unlike the adult one.
Originally posted by Ann
[B]
Find programs on TV and radio, websites, tapes, CDs and other things that tell you about how God loves you. Watch and listen to those and avoid ones that put you down or talk about feeling bad all the time or hurt other people.
I have tried to tell my friend Doug that the music he listens to really makes a difference but he always disagrees,& his parents let him listen to bad music they don't tell him what he can,& can't listen to,& told him that by listening to it he's not helping himself when he's depressed. I never listen to the music that talks about stuff like that,& tried explaining to Doug that a song talking about someone commiting is wrong to listen to but he never listens me. It's amazing to me that his parents allow him to listen to that especially when they are Christian parents.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]This will help you feel a lot better. It probably won’t all happen over night. You have spent years getting into the habits of thinking and feeling that you have now. You have spent years being told you have problems and can’t do a lot of what you want to do. You will need to work at it for several weeks or even months to get your mind programmed with God’s word. But it will be worth it because you are setting the pattern for all the rest of your life.
I tend to like drown out my mind with music so I can avoid how I am,& I don't tend to listen to music that will just make me feel bad. I don't listen to Christian as much as I do anime music but when I do listen to it I just listen to the same song over,& over again. Not our last Youth Minister but the one before that Brother Jonathan told me that he listens to the songs he loves more than once when he's feeling bad,& it helps him,& I do that myself too.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]The other part of programming our minds is what we take out or choose not to put into them. Have you ever noticed how some TV shows leave you feeling bad even if they are supposed to be funny and some cartoons and things may make you laugh for a little while but then you get feeling down and talking to some people on net makes you feel good afterwards while others just upset you?
No I haven't ever noticed that,it's never even happened to me.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]The people and shows and other things that leave you feeling bad are ones to take out and leave out of your mind and life. The ones that make you feel close to God and good about yourself are the ones to put in.
Okay,but there aren't any that leave me feeling bad.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]The way to feel less lonely and to show that you care about other people is to plan each week to do something nice for someone else. You said you like to make things so maybe you could make bracelets and send them to a shelter or a place that people stay when they have been hurt by someone in their family. Or you might want to make cards on net and send them to people you know are lonely or if you have money for stamps send a cards to a nursing home to be given to people who never get any mail. You could also send cards to a children’s hospital. Some people have a special ministry of sending a card by email to people who have asked for prayer at a net site they go to. You can find cards that you can send for free on line at the heartlight site and at www.bluemountain.com and a lot of other places on the net. Another thing you might want to do is to make pictures or favors with a scripture verse on them for people at a personal care home. If you knit or sew or crochet you could make something for babies whose moms have very little money.
That would be a problem when I'm not my own transportation,& my parents aren't likely to take me to do that.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]At home you can think of a chore around the house that your mom does not like to do and you know how to do and start doing it - don’t say anything just do it as a way to bless her.
I know of only 1,& I don't know how to do it,I have yet to be taught how. That would be ironing. Besides that mom's not home she's up in West Virginia with granddad right now.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]Another thing you can do at home is to think of one thing that makes tension between you and your parents and try to go 3 days without doing that thing.
The only thing with that is having my own say in the decisions I make,& not letting them control my life. They won't even let me manage my own money even though I proved I could do it. The thing that causes the tension is the fact that they treat me so much like a little kid,& I have less freedom than a lot of teenagers do even less freedom than some 12 year olds have that the parents let them have,including my friend Doug,& it's bad when your friend who is a kid has more freedom than you do when your 31.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]I know things have been strained between you and your brother but can you think of 3-5 things that are good about him or that you appreciate about him and write him a letter telling him about those good things and not saying anything about things that don’t seem as good?
He acts like what happened between us never happened it's like he forgot it ever happened. Okay but I never see him to give anything to him even though we are neighbors.

Originally posted by Ann
[B]Can you volunteer to do some things outside the house like maybe going one afternoon a month to help put things on the shelves at a food ministry or sort clothes at a place that gives clothes to people who need them? The more things you can do that make someone else feel good the better you will feel about yourself. This is in the Bible too. Luke 6:38 and Galatians 6:7.
I wouldn't be able to unless my parents are someone else takes me. My Sunday School class does a lot of things like making cards for all holidays we celebrate,& that don't include Halloween,we even make our Christmas presents for our parents every year,we have even made stuff for the elderly ladies in our church,we even once went to a Nursing home of course there was only 2 of us there for Sunday School that morning Nancy,& I but it's hard for James to do that kind of stuff do to his health,& being in a wheelchair,& Tracy,& Wayne were out of town,& Sharon didn't want to go so she didn't come,& this was during Sunday School.

[DonnaSugarPlum]

I would have put all this in one post but it wouldn't let me do that,& a lot of Forums have this no double posting rule where you post another 1 in same post where you already replied shortly after you did so.
Originally posted by Ann
I don't know all the reasons you may hurt yourself but for most people most of the time if they do something like that it is because they are tense and feeling bad about themselves.
I'm not even sure of the reasons myself just that it usually happens when I get upset with myself.
Originally posted by Ann
[B]
The more you program yourself to be aware of God's love for you and the better you start to feel about yourself the less likely you are to hurt yourself. Some people have a type of seizure in which they do things they don't know they are doing. If you think something like that is happening to you tell the doctor the next time you go and see if there is any adjustment that can be made in medicine to help you.
Okay. I don't think that's the case I'm not just not in control of doing it.
About the hackers, if this hacker is on Doug’s account then it is Doug’s problem to get rid of them. He can complain to AOL. The best thing for you to do in the meantime is to tell Doug that until he gets that problem solved you are not going to take any more messages from him and if he treats you badly or if someone who says they are him treats you badly or makes fun of you in a chat room just go to another room where the people are nicer. Don’t stay and talk to them about it. Don’t get into a fuss with them. Just go somewhere else where the people act better. Most people who act that way are trying to make themselves feel big and important and to get a reaction from you. If you ignore and avoid them they won’t get any satisfaction from it and will stop doing it. You know that the psychic things Doug is into are things that do harm to a person spiritually and things that God does not like at all. They bring a bad spirit with them. The Bible tell us that people who do such things can’t really be friends to someone who loves God and wants to walk in His light. 2 Corinthians 14-18. Al lot of times just being around things like that or people who do them can make a person really depressed and upset and make a lot of trouble between them and other people.
The main problem here is this hacker keeps pretending he's Doug tricking me in to thinking it's Doug when it's not but the voice on the phone everytime the hackers call me is Dougs voice I know it is,& Percy told me you'll never talk to the real Doug again,& last night I found out it was never Doug that called me Friday are Saturday or last night it was a hacker pretending to be him,& these hackers keep saying they are Christians said they used to be normal Christians but quit that because they hate me,& are doing this to Doug because he betrayed them by becoming my friend,& it's because he's my friend he's been hacked. Now it's going to be hard to know when I'm really talking to Doug,& not this hacker but I know with the suspicious behaviour that it can't be because I'm like Doug never acts this way. Only way the hacker will quit hacking Doug is if he loses the internet is what Percy said. Percy is some how making sure Doug,& I never speak to each other again but I can't help but wonder if Doug is some how involved in this because I prayed that I would hear from Doug soon,& I thought I did Friday night but it was Percy not really Doug,& I don't know what's really going on now. My friend has this feeling that Doug is a hacker that he is involved in this some how. I have Doug's number but I can't call long distance on my phone line. I don't know how he could be hacked so often,& so much like he has been,not even how this hacker could be on his account for over a week,& I not hear a word from the real Doug not the hacker who some how sounds like Doug. What am I supposed to do here,& how do I find out what's really going on,& how do I put a stop to it?
But there is still the what to do to be able to read my Bible daily,& pray daily question.
With what has happened I need answers asap because granddad isn't doing well,& might die,& we might have to go up there,& I won't be able to get the answers up there I won't have anyone to talk to about my problems there all I have there is family not friends.

[Ann]

Hello again Donna
I'm sorry to hear that things are not going well for your grandfather. We will be praying for him and your whole family. Does he know Jesus as his own Savior or should we pray for that too?

The thing to do with any advice or suggestion is to take what will work for you, use what can be useful. For example you feel you can't read a psalm loudly so you can read a psalm - like maybe the 23rd Paslm out loud but quietly in your room or even read it silently to yourself. That way use what you can use of the advice and do what will work in your own circumstances. I think you are very wise to use a Bible translation that is easier for you to understand. THe Bible is God talking to us and He wants us to understand what He is saying.

Thanks for telling me what I didn't make clear enough. May I try again, please? You know how if you want to do something with your computer it will only do what the software or programs it has tell it how to do. For example your computer lets you go on the Internet because it has been programed to do that. If it was not programed to go to the Internet you could turn it on and click away but it would not make a connection. The computer can only use what has been put into it. Our minds are like that too. Our mind has habits or thought patterns that are like the oprograms in the computer. The more we use any habit or pattern the easier it is to do it aklmost automatically. Here is an example. When a child is first learning to put on their shoes thay may have a hard time. They may get the shoe on the wrong foot. But as years go by and putting on shoes becomes a habit it gets easy and as grownups we don't have to put a lot of conscious thought into how to put on a shoe, we just do it. We develop habits in how we think about things too. Someone I know was told all the while he was growing up that he would get sick if he did just about anything. As an adult he struggles a lot with that because he still expects to get sick. But he is learning that God has given him health. He is learning the scriptures that talk about being well and strong. He is teaching himself new habits of becoming a person who expects to be healthy. You can do the same thing. You said you feel lonely a lot and sad a lot. This is when you need to have the Bible verses in your mind that tell you how much God loves you. The rest of it is exactly the same as what you have told Doug. What a person puts into their mind can help them or hurt them. We need to choose the things that help us and avoid the ones that hurt us.

As far as the suggestions on things to do. They are just suggestions. Do what seems to you like it is possible and would be something you would enjoy doing. I can tell you something I wish somebody would do. It doesn't cost any money. It can be done at home. It can be done anytime the person has time. You have probably noticed that a lot of people who post here and on the prayer board feel sad or lonely. I think it would make them feel better if someone would send them a card by email from one of the places where you can make free cards on the internet. They could get their email address by just clicking on their name where they post. You probably know people on the net that you have email addresses for who could use cheering up or knowing someone is thinking about them. Because it is email it does not cost anything to do and you can just do it from your computer. I have learned that when I feel sad and lonely if I reach out and do something that helps someone else I start to feel better. Most other people who do that find it works that way for them too. God made us like that. I think it would work for you too.

If you ever want to send cards like that here are 3 places where you can make free cards. I think you would be good at that because you said you like to make things and I can see you are good with the computer. Just click on the site name and your computer should go there.

www.e-cards.com

http://cards/heartlight.org/index.cgi

www.bluemountain.com

The best way to get rid of the hackers and such people is not to go where they are. That may mean not talking to Doug on net for a while too. If you keep getting phone calls from them that upset you you really do need to tell your parents and ask for their help. If a hacker calls you hang up. You don't have to talk to them. If they email you just don't open it or delete it. You can also block their email address. What ever you do do not agree to meet them anywhere or to meet Doug anywhere because they might come too and they sound like people who are not nice. If they ask you to meet them or if Doug asks you to meet him please tell your Dad. I know you have differences with your Dad but if that happens it is something he needs to take care of for you.

Remember Jesus loves you very much!

[DonnaSugarPlum]

Originally posted by Ann
[B]Hello again Donna
I'm sorry to hear that things are not going well for your grandfather. We will be praying for him and your whole family. Does he know Jesus as his own Savior or should we pray for that too?

My granddad is saved in fact most in my family on all sides are saved,I live in church going family,& daddy finally went to church for the 1rst time in a long time Sunday but it was mainly because my Sunday School class had a recognition as he hasn't been to church in over 2 years but then growing up when I became a teenager I was the only 1 going to church except for 1 year,& mom started coming with me to church when I was 21. My brother won't go to church,& he is saved.